When I think of this rule I can hear myself yelling as if in canyon or holler, “It’s the one way conversation rule….” meaning that we only talk about what you want to talk about right now.

This rule holds a lot of power over being heard. When we are feeling like we are heard, or listened to, we are more likely to feel loved, respected and more likely to be willing to change our minds or negotiate when possible.

It also means that only one of you gets to say your peace.  When this is the way it is, it allows the listener to focus on what is being said and not on what they want to say.

This means it is all about the speaker and their perception of the situation.

“But, when will I get to say my piece” you say.

That is why this is such in important rule. When you are the listener, and after time has passed, you will be able to speak from a more informed position because you have had time to think about and be more thoughtful about what you want to say.