One of the most profound laws is the law of allowing. It is often the most important law we can use in difficult relationships, because we really do not have any control over someone else’s behavior.

Simply put, the law of allowing states this: “I will allow you to behave in any manner you choose. I can also choose to stay or leave, based on your current behavior. Since I can not stop you from choosing to behave any way you choose, I must allow it it happen. I will, however, decide based on your behavior what I will do.”

This is very important because why would I want to be around someone who is miss behaving?

Leaving means I choose to leave the room, or leave the relationship. I just have the right to choose how I will respond to your current behavior.

 

This is one of the most interesting and difficult to implement rule. It means, quite simply, that we must allow others to be who they are at any given moment and not expect them to change.

This becomes harsh when we really want the person in our world to change a behavior that we don’t like.

Allowing means we can choose to be okay with the behavior or we can or will eventually leave the relationship because this behavior is more than we can  tollerate.  It means that we do have responsibility to let the other person know what is not working for us in the relationship.

It also means that we are totally responsible for how we react to the other person.  Loving them in their badness, and allowing them room to grow is an important part of any strong every changing and growing relationship.