How in the world can we have no emotions? Well it is true, we really can’t have no emotions. What this rule is about is how we express what we are experiencing without drama, rage, anger, venting, or shame, shutting down, and loathing.

Discussing without drama isn’t being stoic or not present. It is a rule that eventually becomes easier to understand as you practice communicating your own yearnings or needs, without expecting the other person to change. When we just talk from a matter of fact tone, it creates a better conversation.

This is about specific emotionally charged topics, not every day conversations.

When you have a huge issue in the relationship, allowing the emotions to cool, and communicating about the big issues calmly and with great care moves you to resolution and resolve much faster.