I’ve noticed we often have these judgements about life. Judgementleness is just so condescending that it does not help at all.  I can judge something correctly without being condescending.  I can say that someone is a thief because they stole a car, and were caught. It’s not judging, it’s just true. However, I can use the attitude of being condescending and put them in a class of being less than. Now, I might be wise to not loan my car to them, but judging them is of little value. It creates negative energy in me that is of no value to the real person I can be.

Disliking something is so different than judging. I can dislike something without attitude. I dislike liver, and may try it again sometime just to see if I might like a particular way it is fixed. However, I still highly dislike liver.

Learning to notice what you dislike – and just disliking it without being condescending is a great way to improve the relationship.

When we know what we dislike, we are getting rid of the negative energy present in that dislike and move more readily toward the likes of the world – and subsequently our likes of our relationship