What is so true of all of us again, is that emotions trumph!  We might not notice how emotions affect us. We are emotional beings, and have emotions about everything. One of the most important discoveries someone can do about them selves is to notice the emotions they are avoiding!

Avoiding an emotion is so hidden from us, we don’t even notice we are doing it. I suspect that avoiding our emotions has more to do with relationships going south than almost any thing.

Avoiding an emotions does not mean we are not feeling, it means we don’t want to feel one emotions so we feel another one. The other one we feel is a behavior we see when we over react or have a huge amount of anger about an event or interaction with someone.

Avoiding is the way we keep our selves safe from drama and trauma.

When you don’t want to say something for fear , that is avoiding. Not always, but most of the time it is better to share the emotion.

When you are upset because something isn’t going the way you want it to go, it is because you might be avoiding an emotion. The emotion of feeling alone, or dumb, or left out, or not understood as an example.